During the process of divorce, you may be struggling to redefine your relationship with your former partner as well as helping your children cope with the separation of the family. Your struggle is probably magnified by anger, pain and the lack of knowledge regarding how to support yourself and your child during this trying time. Through the services offered by the Cooperative Parenting Institute, we will assist you in facing the challenges associated with divorce and family separation. We can help enhance family relationships through different treatment options.
8-Week Co-Parenting Classes (Mild-moderate parental conflict)
Cooperative Parenting and Divorce is a psycho-educational video based, class for separating or divorce parents. This program was written by Boyan and Termini the founders of the CPI. Parents may attend pre or post divorce and with or without their co-parent. Over the 16 hour program co-parents learn how to shield their child/ren from conflict.
- Diminish their child's sense of loyalty binds.
- Value each other.
- Stay child-focused.
- Shift their role from former spouse to co-parent.
- Learn business skills.
- Use effective communication and negotiation skills.
- Manage their anger.
- Plan for their future as co-parents.
- Understand the impact of parental conflict on their child's development.
For Mild Parental Conflict
During family separation, parents are often overwhelmed by the number of decisions that need to be made to ensure their child's healthy adjustment during this trying time. Co-parenting counseling is a confidential therapeutic service that addresses the co-parenting relationship and children's issues associated with divorce and family separation. You will receive valuable information about how children experience family separation as well as communication and negotiation skills to improve your effectiveness as co-parents. This service is not intended for those parents experiencing serious conflict, involved in post divorce litigation or facing serious allegations.
Parenting Coordination is a form of dispute resolution for high conflict families. It is a profession designed to assist parents in high-conflict situations establish and maintain a healthy relationship by reducing parental conflict and the risk factors that influence a child's post-divorce adjustment. It is a non confidential service intended for trained professionals to use in collaboration with the courts. Through education, assessment, mediation and case management, the family's progress is monitored to ensure that parents are fulfilling their obligations to their child while complying with the recommendations of the court. For more information regarding parenting coordination or training opportunities visit parentingcoordinationcentral.com.
This mediation service is a confidential process designed to offer parents the ability to design a workable and age appropriate parenting plan for children and their post-divorce relationship. This service is ideal for the parents who want to have professional direction to create a plan that works for their family without the warfare of a typical divorce. Parenting plans focus on your child's needs as well as the rights and responsebilities of both parents. Generally, plans outline holidays and vacations schedules as well as address the day-to-day sharing of the children. Many parents choose this option before they become involved in the legal system or while they are in the initial stages of the divorce. When custody and parenting plans have been resolved the legal representatives will have the parenting plan entered into Court as a court order.
In a divorced or separated family, a parent can sometimes lose touch with a child for a variety of reasons. In a safe and therapeutic setting, a child may be gradually introduced or reintroduced to their biological parent. Child and parent explore and develop a healthy relationship, improve attachment, gain an understanding of and resolve issues of concern for both parents and children, and enhance overall family functioning. In cases of alienation, reunification therapy may be required.
As a result of family separation, parents must develop separate relationships with their children. For some parents, this new family structure may be unfamiliar and overwhelming. Other parents may be unable to effectively parent due to addictions or other emotional struggles. There may also be a history of domestic violence that the child has been a victim to or witnessed creating resistance to visitation. As a result, parents may lack the skills necessary to create a healthy parent-child relationship. In cases in which a parent has been ordered to have supervised visitation they may be required to utilize the services of a family therapist rather than a supervising agency. Unlike a supervisor, the family therapist can provide a safe environment while also giving the parent directives and suggestions to improve their relationship. Therapeutic visitation offers parents the opportunity to practice new strategies in responding to their children. Sessions may focus on effective parent-child communication, healing past trauma, improving the parent's response to the needs of their children, learning appropriate discipline techniques, while decreasing inappropriate interactions between parent and child.
Collaborative Law is a form of dispute resolution that provides separating parents the opportunity to resolve their divorce in a civil and equitable manner without adversarial tactics. Each parent hires their own collaboratively trained attorney. To participate in a collaborative process all parties must sign an agreement not to litigate. This agreement also requires the parties to be transparent with each other and work towards a civil and equitable manner. If either parent changes their minds about this commitment all professionals on their case must terminate with the family. Unlike typical divorce in which the attorneys may make decisions on their own, the parents retain their personal power to resolve their settlement. As a result all negations are resolved with all parties present in four-way meetings.
The CL process utilizes the services of a multi disciplinary team. Not all families require the same team. The team members may include a financial advisor, child specialist, coach or mediator. The attorneys jointly assess the families needs and priorities to develop the best approach to resolving their divorce. As part of this meeting the need for additional professionals is determined. All members of the team sign the same agreement and they work together to keep the parties out of court and moving towards a positive outcome for the whole family. For additional information visit collaborativelawatlanta.com.
Since a divorce is 80% emotional and 20% legal, a divorce coach can make a tremendous difference in helping the settle a divorce. The divorce coach may work with the divorcing parent to assist them with their grief or their resistance to negotiations. The goal is to provide support to the adult while also helping to prepare them for the four way negotiations and helping to prepare them for the future as a single adult. Divorce coaching may continue post divorce, if the issues they are addressing are related to the divorce process. Some parents may not need the services of a coach and sometimes both parents will have their own if needed. The coach communicates as part of the team to increase overall effectiveness. In some cases the coach may work as a neutral with both parents and the team. In this case, they may attend and even manage the four or five way meetings.
The child specialist provides assistance to the parents, the child and the collaborative team. They meet with the parents to discuss their children, their parenting concerns and possible parenting schedules. The child specialist also meets with the child/ren to assess how they are adjusting and to provide information to the parents and team. The child specialist is a neutral would works with both parents together to assist them to craft an age appropriate parenting plan.
A communication coach is also a licensed mental health professional. Their role is to work with any part of the team, the parents, a professional or the full team. The communication coach may be retained to help mediate between the professionals if they have become part of the impasse. When communication coaches are assigned to either party it is generally because the primary coaching is needed around communication and negotiation skills rather than emotional adjustment difficulties. As with all collaborative roles, the communication coach is part of the team and will communicate will all members to assist in the settlement process.