Parenting Coordination is often confused with Co-parenting Counseling because the parent team is seen together in both services. Other similarities include:

  • both services focused on helping to minimize stress on the child.
  • both services involve helping co-parents to resolve co-parenting and parenting issues
  • both services may assist parents in writing their parenting plan when it is pre-divorce
  • both services attempt to minimize parental conflict and avoid litigation
  • neither service can recommend a change of custody.

What is very different is:

  • Co-parenting is confidential and unlikely to be used in court as both parents are not likely to want to sign a waiver.
  • Co-parenting has no monitoring services so noncompliance has no ability to be reported.
  • Co-parenting does not have the authority to make temporary recommendations when time is of the essence.
  • Parenting Coordination is an appointment that is a non-confidential service.
  • Parenting Coordination allows the professional to report to the attorneys and parties regarding noncompliance with the court order.
  • Parenting Coordination allows the professional to testify in court when subpoenaed without releases from the parties

When the case involves:

  • Significant parental conflict or
  • Significant distress for the child
  • Frequent motions are filed or the police are called for non threatening incidents
  • When the parties have made allegations against each other

Then parenting coordination is the only service that should be considered. To recommend co-parenting counseling under these circumstances is to flush the parent’s time and money down the toilet. The only cases appropriate for co-parenting counseling are the mildly conflicted co-parents.